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Love
Love
In
a boiler room
it is impossible to look into the boiler to see how much water
it contains. But running up beside it is a tiny glass tube
that serves as a
gauge. As the water stands in the little tube
so it stands in the great
boiler. When the tube is half full
the boiler is half full
if empty
so is
the boiler. How do you know you love God? You believe you love him
but you
want to know. Look at the gauge. Your love for your brother is the measure of
your love for God. ── Michael P. Green《Illustrations for Biblical
Preaching》
Example of Love
Once
on a railway train an elderly man accidentally broke a minor regulation and was
unmercifully bawled out by a young train employee. Later a fellow passenger
nudged the old gentleman and suggested he give the employee a piece of his
mind.. But the old man just smiled. “Oh
” he said
“if a man like that can
stand himself for all of his life
I surely can stand him for five minutes.” ──
Michael P. Green《Illustrations for Biblical Preaching》
Example of Love
A
thirty-six-year-old mother was discovered to be in the advanced stages of
terminal cancer. One doctor advised her to spend her remaining days enjoying
herself on a beach in
“I’ve
chosen to try to survive for you. This has some horrible costs
including pain
loss of my good humor
and moods I won’t be able to control. But I must try
this
if only on the outside chance that I might live one minute longer. And
that minute could be the one you might need me when no one else will do. For
this I intend to struggle
tooth and nail
so help me God.” – Cited in Focus on
The Family
Example of Love
A
young lady walked into a fabric shop
went to the counter
and asked the owner
for some noisy
rustling
white material. The owner found two such bolts of
fabric but was rather puzzled at the young lady’s motives. Why would anyone
want several yards of noisy material? Finally the owner’s curiosity got the
best of him and he asked the young lady why she particularly wanted noisy
cloth.
She
answered: “you see
I am making a wedding gown
and my fiancé is blind. When I
walk down the aisle
I want him to know when I’ve arrived at the altar
so he
won’t be embarrassed.”
Such
love the young woman had for her man! ── Michael P. Green《Illustrations
for Biblical Preaching》
Example of Love
One
night a two-month-old baby kept his mother and father awake with his fussing
and crying. The father was at wit’s end and had lost all patience. The mother
though
in her deep maternal love
picked up her son and
cuddling him
said
“That’s all right. I’m sorry you don’t feel better!” What an object lesson in
self-giving love. ── Michael P. Green《Illustrations for Biblical
Preaching》
Example of Love
After
the U.S.S. Pueblo was captured by the North Koreans
the eighty-two surviving
crew members were thrown into a brutal captivity. In one particular instance
thirteen of the men were required to sit in a rigid manner around a table for
hours. After several hours the door was violently flung open and a North Korean
guard brutally beat the man in the first chair with the butt of his rifle. The
next day
as each man sat at his assigned place
again the door was thrown open
and the man in the first chair was brutally beaten. On the third day it
happened again to the same man. Knowing the man could not survive
another
young sailor took his place. When the door was flung open the guard automatically
beat the new victim senseless. For weeks
each day a new man stepped forward to
sit in that horrible chair
knowing fullo well what would happen. At last the
guards gave up in exasperation. They were unable to beat that kind of
sacrificial love. ── Michael P. Green《Illustrations for Biblical
Preaching》
Example of Love
During
the season of Super Bowl I
the great quarterback Bart Starr had a little
incentive scheme going with his oldest son. For every perfect paper Bart Junior
brought home from school
Starr gave him ten cents. After a particularly rough
game against
Power of Love
A man who had been the
superintendent of a city rescue mission for forty years was asked why he had
spent his life working with dirty
unkempt
profane
drunken derelicts. He
said
“All I’m doing is giving back to others a little of the love God has
shown to me.”
As a young man
he himself
had been a drunkard who went into a mission for a bowl of chili. There he heard
the preacher say that Christ could save sinners
and he stumbled forward to
accept the Lord Jesus as his Savior. Though his brain was addled by drink
he
felt a weight lifted from his shoulders
and that day he became a changed
person. A little later
seeking God’s will for his life
he felt the Lord
calling him to go back to the gutter and reach the people still wallowing
there. The power of redeeming love enabled him to carry on his ministry for
forty years. ── Michael P. Green《Illustrations for Biblical
Preaching》
Hatred
A pastor in Ireland told
this story:
“I was telling a Protestant
group of a boy in our city
Paul McGeown
age two
who on summer days loved to
go with his mother to the park to watch the birds. ‘Birdies! Birdies!’ he would
say with glee. On his way to the park one day
the blast of a terrorist bomb hurled
Paul right across the road
inflicting severe head injuries. For sixteen days
he lay unconscious in the Belfast Children’s Hospital. A brain surgeon
operated
and when Paul regained consciousness
he could not see. Then a month
later
a miracle happened. The nurse was holding Paul at the window. Suddenly
he pointed. ‘Birdies! Birdies!’ Paul could see again.
“What was the reaction from
the people to whom I was telling this story? Nearly all felt happiness for the
child whose sight had been restored
I’m sure. But one woman angrily asked
‘But wasn’t he a Roman Catholic?’” ── Michael P. Green《Illustrations
for Biblical Preaching》
Kindness
It takes a long time to fill a glass
with drops of water. Even when the glass seems full
it can still take one
two
three
four
or five or more additional drops. But if you will keep at it
there is at last that one drop that makes the glass overflow.
The same applies to deeds of kindness.
In a series of kindnesses there is at last one that makes the heart run over. ──
Michael P. Green《Illustrations for Biblical Preaching》
Kindness
”You can accomplish by kindness
”
wrote Publilius Syrus in the first century before the birth of Christ
“what
you can cannot by force.”
William B. McKinley
President of the
Newspaper columnist and minister
George Crane tells of a wife who came into his office full of hatred toward her
husband. "I do not only want to get rid of him
I want to get even. Before
I divorce him
I want to hurt him as much as he has me."
Dr. Crane suggested an ingenious plan
"Go home and act as if you really love your husband. Tell him how much he
means to you. Praise him for every decent trait. Go out of your way to be as
kind
considerate
and generous as possible. Spare no efforts to please him
to
enjoy him. Make him believe you love him. After you've convinced him of your
undying love and that you cannot live without him
then drop the bomb. Tell him
that your're getting a divorce. That will really hurt him." With revenge
in her eyes
she smiled and exclaimed
"Beautiful
beautiful. Will he ever
be surprised!" And she did it with enthusiasm. Acting "as if."
For two months she showed love
kindness
listening
giving
reinforcing
sharing. When she didn't return
Crane called. "Are you ready now to go
through with the divorce?"
"Divorce?" she exclaimed.
"Never! I discovered I really do love him." Her actions had changed
her feelings. Motion resulted in emotion. The ability to love is established
not so much by fervent promise as often repeated deeds. ── J.
Allan Petersen.
In his book Mere Christianity
C.S. Lewis wrote
"Do not waste your time bothering whether you 'love'
your neighbor act as if you did. As soon as we do this
we find one of the
great secrets. When you are behaving as if you loved someone
you will presently
come to love him. If you injure someone you dislike
you will find yourself
disliking him more. If you do him a good turn
you will find yourself disliking
him less." ──
Our Daily Bread
February 14.
Two weeks after the stolen steak deal
I took Helen (eight years old) and Brandon (five years old) to the Cloverleaf
Mall in Hattiesburg to do a little shopping. As we drove up
we spotted a
Peterbilt eighteen-wheeler parked with a big sign on it that said
"Petting Zoo." The kids jumped up in a rush and asked
"Daddy
Daddy. Can we go? Please. Please. Can we go?"
"Sure
" I said
flipping
them both a quarter before walking into Sears. They bolted away
and I felt
free to take my time looking for a scroll saw. A petting zoo consists of a
portable fence erected in the mall with about six inches of sawdust and a
hundred little furry baby animals of all kinds. Kids pay their money and stay
in the enclosure enraptured with the squirmy little critters while their moms
and dads shop.
A few minutes later
I turned around
and saw Helen walking along behind me. I was shocked to see she preferred the
hardware department to the petting zoo. Recognizing my error
I bent down and
asked her what was wrong.
She looked up at me with those giant
limpid brown eyes and said sadly
"Well
Daddy
it cost fifty cents. So
I
gave Brandon my quarter." Then she said the most beautiful thing I ever
heard. She repeated the family motto. The family motto is in "Love is
Action!"
She had given Brandon her quarter
and
no one loves cuddly furry creatures more than Helen. She had watched Sandy take
my steak and say
"Love is Action!" She had watched both of us do and
say "Love is Action!" for years around the house and Kings Arrow
Ranch. She had heard and seen "Love is Action
" and now she had
incorporated it into her little lifestyle. It had become part of her.
What do you think I did? Well
not
what you might think. As soon as I finished my errands
I took Helen to the
petting zoo. We stood by the fence and watched Brandon go crazy petting and
feeding the animals. Helen stood with her hands and chin resting on the fence
and just watched Brandon. I had fifty cents burning a hole in my pocket; I
never offered it to Helen
and she never asked for it.
Because she knew the whole family motto.
It's not "Love is Action." It's "Love is SACRIFICIAL
Action!" Love always pays a price. Love always costs something. Love is
expensive. When you love
benefits accrue to another's account. Love is for
you
not for me. Love gives; it doesn't grab. Helen gave her quarter to Brandon
and wanted to follow through with her lesson. She knew she had to taste the
sacrifice. She wanted to experience that total family motto. Love is
sacrificial action.── Dave Simmons
Dad
The Family Coach
Victor
Books
1991
pp. 123-124.
You can see them alongside the
shuffleboard courts in Florida or on the porches of the old folks' homes up
north: an old man with snow-white hair
a little hard of hearing
reading the
newspaper through a magnifying glass; an old woman in a shapeless dress
her
knuckles gnarled by arthritis
wearing sandals to ease her aching arches. They
are holding hands
and in a little while they will totter off to take a nap
and then she will cook supper
not a very good supper and they will watch television
each knowing exactly what the other is thinking
until it is time for bed. They
may even have a good
soul-stirring argument
just to prove that they still
really care. And through the night they will snore unabashedly
each resting
content because the other is there. They are in love
they have always been in
love
although sometimes they would have denied it. And because they have been
in love they have survived everything that life could throw at them
even their
own failures.── Ernest Havemann
Bits & Pieces
June 24
1993
pp. 7-9.
It's very human to begin looking for
something and then forget what you're looking for. Tennessee Williams tells a
story of someone who forgot -- the story of Jacob Brodzky
a shy Russian Jew
whose father owned a bookstore. The older Brodzky wanted his son to go to
college. The boy
on the other hand
desired nothing but to marry Lila
his
childhood sweetheart -- a French girl as effusive
vital
and ambitious as he
was contemplative and retiring. A couple of months after young Brodzky went to
college
his father fell ill and died. The son returned home
buried his
father
and married his love. Then the couple moved into the apartment above
the bookstore
and Brodzky took over its management. The life of books fit him
perfectly
but it cramped her. She wanted more adventure -- and she found it
she thought
when she met an agent who praised her beautiful singing voice and
enticed her to tour Europe with a vaudeville company. Brodzky was devastated.
At their parting
he reached into his pocket and handed her the key to the
front door of the bookstore.
"You had better keep this
"
he told her
"because you will want it some day. Your love is not so much
less than mine that you can get away from it. You will come back sometime
and
I will be waiting." She kissed him and left. To escape the pain he felt
Brodzky withdrew deep into his bookstore and took to reading as someone else
might have taken to drink. He spoke little
did little
and could most times be
found at the large desk near the rear of the shop
immersed in his books while
he waited for his love to return.
Nearly 15 years after they parted
at
Christmastime
she did return. But when Brodzky rose from the reading desk that
had been his place of escape for all that time
he did not take the love of his
life for more than an ordinary customer. "Do you want a book?" he
asked.
That he didn't recognize her startled
her. But she gained possession of herself and replied
"I want a book
but
I've forgotten the name of it." Then she told him a story of childhood
sweethearts. A story of a newly married couple who lived in an apartment above
a bookstore. A story of a young
ambitious wife who left to seek a career
who
enjoyed great success but could never relinquish the key her husband gave her
when they parted. She told him the story she thought would bring him to
himself.
But his face showed no recognition.
Gradually she realized that he had lost touch with his heart's desire
that he
no longer knew the purpose of his waiting and grieving
that now all he
remembered was the waiting and grieving itself. "You remember it; you must
remember it -- the story of Lila and Jacob?"
After a long
bewildered pause
he
said
"There is something familiar about the story
I think I have read it
somewhere. It comes to me that it is something by Tolstoi." Dropping the
key
she fled the shop. And Brodzky returned to his desk
to his reading
unaware that the love he waited for had come and gone.
Tennessee Williams's 1931 story
"Something by Tolstoi" reminds me how easy it is to miss love when it
comes. Either something so distracts us or we have so completely lost who we
are and what we care about that we cannot recognize our heart's desire.── Signs of the Times
June
1993
p. 11.
Ted Stallard undoubtedly qualifies as
the one of "the least." Turned off by school. Very sloppy in
appearance. Expressionless. Unattractive. Even his teacher
Miss Thompson
enjoyed bearing down her red pen -- as she placed Xs beside his many wrong
answers.
If only she had studied his records
more carefully. They read:
1st grade: Ted shows promise with his
work and attitude
but (has) poor home situation.
2nd grade: Ted could do better. Mother
seriously ill. Receives little help from home.
3rd grade: Ted is good boy but too
serious. He is a slow learner. His mother died this year.
4th grade: Ted is very slow
but
well-behaved. His father shows no interest whatsoever.
Christmas arrived. The children piled
elaborately wrapped gifts on their teacher's desk. Ted brought one too. It was
wrapped in brown paper and held together with Scotch Tape. Miss Thompson opened
each gift
as the children crowded around to watch. Out of Ted's package fell a
gaudy rhinestone bracelet
with half of the stones missing
and a bottle of
cheap perfume. The children began to snicker. But she silenced them by
splashing some of the perfume on her wrist
and letting them smell it. She put
the bracelet on too.
At day's end
after the other children
had left
Ted came by the teacher's desk and said
"Miss Thompson
you
smell just like my mother. And the bracelet looks real pretty on you. I'm glad
you like my presents." He left. Miss Thompson got down on her knees and
asked God to forgive her and to change her attitude.
The next day
the children were
greeted by a reformed teacher -- one committed to loving each of them.
Especially the slow ones. Especially Ted. Surprisingly -- or maybe
not
surprisingly
Ted began to show great improvement. He actually caught up with
most of the students and even passed a few.
Time came and went. Miss Thompson
heard nothing from Ted for a long time. Then
one day
she received this note:
Dear Miss Thompson:
I wanted you to be the first to know.
I will be graduating second in my class.
Love
Ted
Four years later
another note
arrived:
Dear Miss Thompson:
They just told me I will be graduating
first in my class. I wanted you to be first to know. The university has not
been easy
but I liked it.
Love
Ted
And four years later:
Dear Miss Thompson:
As of today
I am Theodore Stallard
M.D. How about that? I wanted you to be the first to know. I am getting married
next month
the 27th to be exact. I want you to come and sit where my mother
would sit if she were alive. You are the only family I have now; Dad died last
year.
Miss Thompson attended that wedding
and sat where Ted's mother would have sat. The compassion she had shown that
young man entitled her to that privilege.
Let's have some real courage
and start
giving to "one of the least." He may become a Ted Stallard. Even if
that doesn't happen
we will have been faithful to the One who has always
treated us -- as unworthy as we are -- like very special people.── Jon
Johnston
Courage - You Can Stand Strong in the Face of Fear
1990
SP
Publications
pp. 111-113.
During the 17th century
Oliver
Cromwell
Lord Protector of England
sentenced a soldier to be shot for his
crimes. The execution was to take place at the ringing of the evening curfew
bell. However
the bell did not sound. The soldier's fianc?had climbed into the
belfry and clung to the great clapper of the bell to prevent it from striking.
When she was summoned by Cromwell to account for her actions
she wept as she
showed him her bruised and bleeding hands. Cromwell's heart was touched and he
said
"Your lover shall live because of your sacrifice. Curfew shall not
ring tonight!" ── Our Daily Bread.
During World War II
Hitler commanded
all religious groups to unite so that he could control them. Among the Brethren
assemblies
half complied and half refused. Those who went along with the order
had a much easier time. Those who did not
faced harsh persecution. In almost
every family of those who resisted
someone died in a concentration camp. When
the war was over
feelings of bitterness ran deep between the groups and there
was much tension. Finally they decided that the situation had to be healed.
Leaders from each group met at a quiet retreat. For several days
each person
spent time in prayer
examining his own heart in the light of Christ's
commands. Then they came together.
Francis Schaeffer
who told of the
incident
asked a friend who was there
"What did you do then?"
"We were just one
" he replied. As they confessed their hostility and
bitterness to God and yielded to His control
the Holy Spirit created a spirit
of unity among them. Love filled their hearts and dissolved their hatred.
When love prevails among believers
especially in times of strong disagreement
it presents to the world an
indisputable mark of a true follower of Jesus Christ. ── Our Daily Bread
October 4
1992.
She was lying on the ground. In her
arms she held a tiny baby girl. As I put a cooked sweet potato into her
outstretched hand
I wondered if she would live until morning. Her strength was
almost gone
but her tired eyes acknowledged my gift. The sweet potato could
help so little -- but it was all I had.
Taking a bite she chewed it carefully.
Then
placing her mouth over her baby's mouth
she forced the soft warm food
into the tiny throat. Although the mother was starving
she used the entire
potato to keep her baby alive. Exhausted from her effort
she dropped her head
on the ground and closed her eyes. In a few minutes the baby was asleep. I later
learned that during the night the mother's heart stopped
but her little girl
lived.
Love is a costly thing. God in His
love for us (and for a lost world) "spared not His own Son" to tell
the world of His love. Love is costly
but we must tell the world at any cost.
Such love is costly. It costs parents and sons and daughters. It costs the
missionary life itself. In his love for Christ the missionary often must give
up all to make the Savior known. If you will let your love for Christ
cost you
something
the great advance will be made together.
Remember
love is a costly thing. Do
you love enough?── Dick Hills
Love is a Costly Thing.
Show me a church where there is love
and I will show you a church that is a power in the community. In Chicago a few
years ago a little boy attended a Sunday school I know of. When his parents
moved to another part of the city the little fellow still attended the same
Sunday school
although it meant a long
tiresome walk each way. A friend asked
him why he went so far
and told him that there were plenty of others just as
good nearer his home.
"They may be as good for others
but not for me
" was his reply.
"Why not?" she asked.
"Because they love a fellow over
there
" he replied.
If only we could make the world believe
that we loved them there would be fewer empty churches
and a smaller
proportion of our population who never darken a church door. Let love replace
duty in our church relations
and the world will soon be evangelized. ── Moody's Anecdotes
pp. 71-72.
No more convincing evidence of the
absence of parental affection exists than that compiled by Rene Spitz. In a
South American orphanage
Spitz observed and recorded what happened to 97
children who were deprived of emotional and physical contact with others.
Because of a lack of funds
there was not enough staff to adequately care for
these children
ages 3 months to 3 years old. Nurses changed diapers and fed
and bathed the children. But there was little time to hold
cuddle
and talk to
them as a mother would. After three months many of them showed signs of
abnormality. Besides a loss of appetite and being unable to sleep well
many of
the children lay with a vacant expression in their eyes. After five months
serious deterioration set in.
They lay whimpering
with troubled and
twisted faces. Often
when a doctor or nurse would pick up an infant
it would
scream in terror. Twenty seven
almost one third
of the children died the
first year
but not from lack of food or health care. They died of a lack of
touch and emotional nurture. Because of this
seven more died the second year.
Only twenty one of the 97 survived
most suffering serious psychological
damage. ── Charles Sell
Unfinished Business
Multnomah
1989
p. 39.
I stand by the bed where a young woman
lies
her face postoperative
her mouth twisted in palsy
clownish. A tiny twig
of the facial nerve
the one to the muscles of her mouth
has been severed. She
will be thus from now on. The surgeon had followed with religious fervor the curve
of her flesh; I promise you that. Nevertheless
to remove the tumor in her
cheek
I had to cut the little nerve. Her young husband is in the room. He
stands on the opposite side of the bed and together they seem to dwell in the
evening lamplight
isolated from me
private. Who are they
I ask myself
he
and this wry mouth I have made
who gaze at and touch each other so generously
greedily?
The young woman speaks. "Will my
mouth always be like this?" she asks.
"Yes
" I say
"it will.
It is because the nerve was cut."
She nods and is silent. But the young
man smiles. "I like it
" he says
"It is kind of cute." All
at once I know who he is. I understand and I lower my gaze. One is not bold in
an encounter with a god. Unmindful
he bends to kiss her crooked mouth and I am
so close I can see how he twists his own lips to accommodate to hers
to show
her that their kiss still works.── Richard Selzer
M.D.
Mortal
Lessons: Notes on the Art of Surgery
1978
pp. 45-6.
To love at all is to be venerable.
Love anything
and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken.
If you want to make sure of keeping it intact
you must give your heart to no
one
not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little
luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin or
your selfishness. But in that casket--safe
dark
motionless
airless--it will
change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable
impenetrable
irredeemable...The only place outside Heaven where you can be perfectly safe
from all the dangers...of love is Hell. ── C.S. Lewis
The Four
Loves
Harcourt
Brace & World
Inc.
1960
p.169.
"I have no misgivings about or
lack of confidence in the cause in which I am engaged and my courage does not
falter. I know how American civilization leans upon the triumph of the
government. I know how great a debt we owe to those who went before us through
the suffering of the Revolution. And I am willing
perfectly willing
to lay
down the joys of this life to help maintain this government and to help pay
that debt.
Sarah
my love for you is deathless.
It seems to bind me with many cables that nothing but Omnipotence can break.
And yet my love of country comes over me like a strong wind and bears me irresistibly
with all those chains to the battlefield. The memory of all those blissful
moments I have enjoyed with you come crowding over me
and I feel most grateful
to God and you that I have enjoyed them for so long. And how hard it is for me
to give them up and burn to ashes the future years
when God willing
we might
have loved and lived together
and watched our boys grow up around us to
honorable manhood. If I do not return my dear Sarah
never forget how much I
loved you nor that when my last breath escapes me on the battlefield it will
whimper your name."── Major Sullivan Ballou
of
the Union Army
to his wife Sarah. One week later
Major Ballou was killed at
the first battle of Bull Run.
For 36 years Jeno and his wife
delighted in one another. But one day Jeno suffered a stroke. For weeks he lay
in the hospital
slipping in and out of a coma. Day and night his wife sat at
his side. One evening
she put her head on his hand and fell asleep.
Jeno awoke during the night and seeing
his wife
picked up an envelope and pencil and scribbled these words:
"Softly
I will leave you
for my heart would break if you should wake and
see me go. So I leave you. Long before you miss me. Long before your arms can
beg me stay for one more hour
one more day. After all of the years
I can't
stand the tears to fall
so I leave you softly." ── Today in the Word
February
1991
p.
32.
Is there a hell?
Once upon a time a person was touched
by God
and God gave him a priceless gift. This gift was the capacity for love.
He was grateful and humble
and he knew what an extraordinary thing had
happened to him. He carried it like a jewel and he walked tall and with
purpose. From time to time he would show this gift to others
and they would
smile and stroke his jewel. But it seemed that they'd also dirty it up a
little. Now
this was no way to treat such a precious thing
so the person
built a box to protect his jewel. And he decided to show it only to those who
would treat it with respect and meet it with reverent love of their own.
Even that didn't work
for some tried
to break into the box. So he built a bigger
stronger box--one that no one
could get into--and the man felt good. At last he was protecting the jewel as
it should be. Upon occasion
when he decided that someone had earned the right
to see it
he'd show it proudly. But they sometimes refused
or kind of smudged
it
or just glanced at it disinterestedly.
Much time went by
and then only once
in awhile would one pass by the man
the aging man; he would pat his box and
say
"I have the loveliest of jewels in here." Once or twice he
opened the box and offered it saying
"Look and see. I want you to."
And the passerby would look and look
and look. And then he would back away
from the old man
shaking his head.
The man died
and he went to God
and
he said
"You gave me a precious gift many years ago
and I've kept it
safe
and it is as lovely as the day you gave it to me." And he opened the
box and held it out to God. He glanced in it
and in it was a lizard--an ugly
laughing lizard. And God walked away from him.
Yes
there is a hell.── Lois
Cheney
God is no Fool
p. 33-4.
If we discovered that we had five
minutes left to say all we wanted to say
every telephone booth would be
occupied by people calling other people to stammer that they love them. Why
wait until the last five minutes? ── C. Morley
in Homemade
July
1990.
The teacher in our adult-education
creative-writing class told us to write "I love you" in 25 words or
less
without using the words "I love you." She gave us 15 minutes. A
woman in the class spent about ten minutes looking at the ceiling and wriggling
in her seat. The last five minutes she wrote frantically
and later read us the
results:
"Why
I've seen lots worse
haridos than that
honey."
"These cookies are hardly burned
at all."
"Cuddle up-I'll get your feet
warm."
── Charlotte Mortimer
in
February 1990 Reader's Digest.
In The Christian Leader
Don Ratzlaff retells a story Vernon Grounds came across in Ernest Gordon's Miracle
on the River Kwai. The Scottish soldiers
forced by their Japanese captors
to labor on a jungle railroad
had degenerated to barbarous behavior
but one
afternoon something happened.
"A shovel was missing. The
officer in charge became enraged. He demanded that the missing shovel be
produced
or else. When nobody in the squadron budged
the officer got his gun
and threatened to kill them all on the spot . . . It was obvious the officer
meant what he had said. Then
finally
one man stepped forward. The officer put
away his gun
picked up a shovel
and beat the man to death. When it was over
the survivors picked up the bloody corpse and carried it with them to the
second tool check. This time
no shovel was missing. Indeed
there had been a
miscount at the first check point.
"The word spread like wildfire
through the whole camp. An innocent man had been willing to die to save the
others! . . . The incident had a profound effect. . . The men began to treat
each other like brothers.
"When the victorious Allies swept
in
the survivors
human skeletons
lined up in front of their captors . . (and
instead of attacking their captors) insisted: 'No more hatred. No more killing.
Now what we need is forgiveness.'" ── Don Ratzlaff
The
Christian Leader.
Sacrificial love has transforming
power. Genuine love is volitional rather than emotional. The person who truly
loves does so because of a decision to love. This person has made a commitment
to be loving whether or not the loving feeling is present. It if is
so much
the better; but if it isn't
the commitment to love
the will to love
still stands
and is still exercised. Conversely
it is not only possible but necessary for a
loving person to avoid acting on feelings of love. I may meet a woman who
strongly attracts me
whom I feel like loving
but because it would be
destructive to my marriage to have an affair
I will say vocally or in the
silence of my heart
"I feel like loving you
but I am not going to."
My feelings of love may be unbounded
but my capacity to be loving is limited.
I therefore must choose the person on whom to focus my capacity to love
toward
whom to direct my will to love. True love is not a feeling by which we are
overwhelmed. It is a committed
thoughtful decision.── Dr.
M. Scott Peck.
On ingenious teenager
tired of
reading bedtime stories to his little sister
decided to record several of her
favorite stories on tape. He told her
"now you can hear your stories
anytime you want. Isn't that great?" She looked at the machine for a
moment and then replied
"No. It hasn't got a lap." ──
Source Unknown.
Some years ago
Dr. Karl Menninger
noted doctor and psychologist
was seeking the cause of many of his patients'
ills. One day he called in his clinical staff and proceeded to unfold a plan
for developing
in his clinic
an atmosphere of creative love. All patients
were to be given large quantities of love; no unloving attitudes were to be
displayed in the presence of the patients
and all nurses and doctors were to
go about their work in and out of the various rooms with a loving attitude. At
the end of six months
the time spent by patients in the institution was cut in
half.── Source Unknown.
A young man said to his father at
breakfast one morning
"Dad
I'm going to get married."
"How do you know you're ready to
get married?" asked the father. "Are you in love?"
"I sure am
" said the
son.
"How do you know you're in
love?" asked the father.
"Last night as I was kissing my
girlfriend good-night
her dog bit me and I didn't feel the pain until I got
home."
── Source Unknown.
Years ago Father John Powell told the
story of Norma Jean
Mortenson: "Norma Jean Mortenson.
Remember that name? Norma Jean's mother
Mrs. Gladys Baker
was periodically
committed to a mental institution and Norma Jean spent much of her childhood in
foster homes. In one of those foster homes
when she was eight years old
one
of the boarders raped her and gave her a nickel. He said
'Here
Honey. Take
this and don't ever tell anyone what I did to you.' When little Norma Jean went
to her foster mother to tell her what had happened she was beaten badly. She
was told
'Our boarder pays good rent. Don't you ever say anything bad about
him!' Norma Jean at the age of eight had learned what it was to be used and
given a nickel and beaten for trying to express the hurt that was in her.
"Norma Jean turned into a very
pretty young girl and people began to notice. Boys whistled at her and she
began to enjoy that
but she always wished they would notice she was a person
too--not just a body--or a pretty face--but a person.
"Then Norma Jean went to
Hollywood and took a new name-- Marilyn Monroe and the publicity people told
her
'We are going to create a modern sex symbol out of you.' And this was her
reaction
'A symbol? Aren't symbols things people hit together?' They said
'Honey
it doesn't matter
because we are going to make you the most smoldering
sex symbol that ever hit the celluloid.'
"She was an overnight smash
success
but she kept asking
'Did you also notice I am a person? Would you
please notice?' Then she was cast in the dumb blonde roles.
"Everyone hated Marilyn Monroe.
Everyone did.
"She would keep her crews waiting
two hours on the set. She was regarded as a selfish prima donna. What they
didn't know was that she was in her dressing room vomiting because she was so
terrified.
"She kept saying
'Will someone
please notice I am a person. Please.' They didn't notice. They wouldn't take
her seriously.
"She went through three
marriages--always pleading
'Take me seriously as a person.' Everyone kept
saying
'But you are a sex symbol. You can't be other than that.'
"Marilyn kept saying 'I want to
be a person. I want to be a serious actress.'
"And so on that Saturday night
at the age of 35 when all beautiful women are supposed to be on the arm of a
handsome escort
Marilyn Monroe took her own life. She killed herself.
"When her maid found her body the
next morning
she noticed the telephone was off the hook. It was dangling there
beside her.
Later investigation revealed that in
the last moments of her life she had called a Hollywood actor and told him she
had taken enough sleeping pills to kill herself.
"He answered with the famous line
of Rhett Butler
which I now edit for church
'Frankly
my dear
I don't care!'
That was the last word she heard. She dropped the phone--left it dangling.
"Claire Booth Luce in a very
sensitive article asked
'What really killed Marilyn Monroe
love goddess who
never found any love?' She said she thought the dangling telephone was the
symbol of Marilyn Monroe's whole life. She died because she never got through
to anyone who understood." ── Dynamic Preaching
June
1990.
On May 2
1962
a dramatic
advertisement appeared in the San Francisco Examiner: "I don't want
my husband to die in the gas chamber for a crime he did not commit. I will
therefore offer my services for 10 years as a cook
maid
or housekeeper to any
leading attorney who will defend him and bring about his
vindication."
One of San Francisco's greatest
attorneys
Vincent Hallinan
read or heard about the ad and contacted Gladys
Kidd
who had placed it. Her husband
Robert Lee Kidd
was about to be tried
for the slaying of an elderly antique dealer. Kidd's fingerprints had been
found on a bloodstained ornate sword in the victim's shop. During the trial
Hallinan proved that the antique dealer had not been killed by the sword
and
that Kidd's fingerprints and blood on the sword got there because Kidd had once
toyed with it while playfully dueling with a friend when they were both out
shopping. The jury
after 11 hours
found Kidd to be not guilty. Attorney
Hallinan refused Gladys Kidd's offer of 10 years' servitude. ── From
the Book of Lists #2
p. 157.
I was attending a junior stock show
when a grand-champion lamb
owned by a little girl
was being auctioned. As the
bids reached five dollars per pound
the little girl
standing beside the lamb
in the arena
began to cry. At ten dollars
the tears were streaming down her
face and she clasped her arms tightly around the lamb's neck. The higher the bids
rose
the more she cried. Finally
a local businessman bought the lamb for more
than $1000
but then announced that he was donating it to the little girl. The
crowd applauded and cheered.
Months later
I was judging some
statewide essays when I came across one from a girl who told about the time her
grand-champion lamb had been auctioned. "The prices began to get so high
during the bidding
" she wrote
"that I started to cry from
happiness." She continued with: "The man who bought the lamb for so
much more than I ever dreamed I would get returned the lamb to me
and when I
got home
Daddy barbecued the lamb--and it was really delicious." ── Joe
Wagner
in Reader's Digest.
Dr. Mitchell was impressing upon us
that we are not under the Law when we're in Christ
but we're under a new law
-- the law of LOVE. He used this to illustrate: In America there is a law
stating a woman must take care of her child. So
a man comes to a new mother's
home. He says "Are you taking care of your baby? The Law says you have
to." The woman
tenderly holding her baby
said
"I don't need a law
to make me take care of my baby." Why? Because she loves her baby! She
feeds him
holds him
changes him because she loves him. I no longer need the
Law because I'm under Christ -- a law of LOVE.── Source Unknown.
In The Grace of Giving
Stephen Olford tells of a Baptist pastor during the American Revolution
Peter
Miller
who lived in Ephrata
Pennsylvania
and enjoyed the friendship of
George Washington. In Ephrata also lived Michael Wittman
an evil-minded sort
who did all he could to oppose and humiliate the pastor. One day Michael
Wittman was arrested for treason and sentenced to die. Peter Miller traveled
seventy miles on foot to Philadelphia to plead for the life of the traitor.
"No
Peter
" General
Washington said. "I cannot grant you the life of your friend."
"My friend!" exclaimed the
old preacher. "He's the bitterest enemy I have."
"What?" cried Washington.
"You've walked seventy miles to save the life of an enemy? That puts the
matter in different light. I'll grant your pardon." And he did.
Peter Miller took Michael Wittman back
home to Ephrata--no longer an enemy but a friend.── Lynn Jost.
Love
In a boiler room
it is impossible to look into the
boiler to see how much water it contains. But running up beside it is a tiny
glass tube
that serves as a gauge. As the water stands in the little tube
so
it stands in the great boiler. When the tube is half full
the boiler is half
full
if empty
so is the boiler. How do you know you love God? You believe you
love him
but you want to know. Look at the gauge. Your love for your brother
is the measure of your love for God.
Love
This was the reaction of the unbelieving Greek writer
Lucian (A.D. 120~200) upon observing the warm fellowship of Christians:
“It
is incredible to see the fervor with which the people of that religion help
each other in their wants. They spare nothing. Their first legislator (Jesus)
has put it into their heads that they are brethren.
Love
“It is our care for the helpless
our practice of
lovingkindness
that brands us in the eyes of many of our opponents. ‘Look!’
they say. ‘How they love one another! Look how they are prepared to die for one
another.’” –Tertullian
What is Love?
It’s silence when your
words would hurt.
It’s
patience when your neighbor’s curt.
It’s
deafness when the scandal flows.
It’s
thoughtfulness for another’s woes.
It’s
promptness when stern duty calls.
It’s
courage when misfortune falls.
Example of Love
Once on a railway train an elderly man accidentally broke
a minor regulation and was unmercifully bawled out by a young train employee.
Later a fellow passenger nudged the old gentleman and suggested he give the
employee a piece of his mind.. But the old man just smiled. “Oh
” he said
“if
a man like that can stand himself for all of his life
I surely can stand him
for five minutes.”
Example of Love
A thirty-six-year-old mother was discovered to be in the
advanced stages of terminal cancer. One doctor advised her to spend her
remaining days enjoying herself on a beach in
“I’ve
chosen to try to survive for you. This has some horrible costs
including pain
loss of my good humor
and moods I won’t be able to control. But I must try
this
if only on the outside chance that I might live one minute longer. And
that minute could be the one you might need me when no one else will do. For
this I intend to struggle
tooth and nail
so help me God.” –Cited in Focus on
The Family
Example of Love
A young lady walked into a fabric shop
went to the
counter
and asked the owner for some noisy
rustling
white material. The
owner found two such bolts of fabric but was rather puzzled at the young lady’s
motives. Why would anyone want several yards of noisy material? Finally the
owner’s curiosity got the best of him and he asked the young lady why she
particularly wanted noisy cloth.
She
answered: “you see
I am making a wedding gown
and my fiancé is blind. When I
walk down the aisle
I want him to know when I’ve arrived at the altar
so he
won’t be embarrassed.”
Such love
the young woman had for her man!
Example of Love
One night a two-month-old baby kept his mother and father
awake with his fussing and crying. The father was at wit’s end and had lost all
patience. The mother
though
in her deep maternal love
picked up her son and
cuddling him
said
“That’s all right. I’m sorry you don’t feel better!” What
an object lesson in self-giving love.
Example of Love
After the U.S.S. Pueblo was captured by the North
Koreans
the eighty-two surviving crew members were thrown into a brutal
captivity. In one particular instance thirteen of the men were required to sit
in a rigid manner around a table for hours. After several hours the door was
violently flung open and a North Korean guard brutally beat the man in the
first chair with the butt of his rifle. The next day
as each man sat at his
assigned place
again the door was thrown open and the man in the first chair
was brutally beaten. On the third day it happened again to the same man.
Knowing the man could not survive
another young sailor took his place. When
the door was flung open the guard automatically beat the new victim senseless.
For weeks
each day a new man stepped forward to sit in that horrible chair
knowing fullo well what would happen. At last the guards gave up in
exasperation. They were unable to beat that kind of sacrificial love.
Example of Love
During the season of Super Bowl I
the great quarterback
Bart Starr had a little incentive scheme going with his oldest son. For every
perfect paper Bart Junior brought home from school
Starr gave him ten cents.
After a particularly rough game against
Mature/Immature Love
Infantile love follows the
principle:
“I
love because I am loved.”
Mature
love follows the principle:
“I
am loved because I love.”
Immature
love says:
“I
love you because I need you.”
Mature
love says:
“I
need you because I love you.”—Erich Fromm
Power of Love
A man who had been the
superintendent of a city rescue mission for forty years was asked why he had
spent his life working with dirty
unkempt
profane
drunken derelicts. He
said
“All I’m doing is giving back to others a little of the love God has
shown to me.”
As
a young man
he himself had been a drunkard who went into a mission for a bowl
of chili. There he heard the preacher say that Christ could save sinners
and
he stumbled forward to accept the Lord Jesus as his Savior. Though his brain
was addled by drink
he felt a weight lifted from his shoulders
and that day
he became a changed person. A little later
seeking God’s will for his life
he
felt the Lord calling him to go back to the gutter and reach the people still
wallowing there. The power of redeeming love enabled him to carry on his ministry
for forty years.
Power of Love
He drew a circle that shut me out-
Heretic
rebel
a thing to flout.
But
Love and I had the wit to win:
We
drew a circle that took him in. –Edwin Markham
Hatred
”Hate at its best will
distort you; at its worst it will destroy you; but it will always immobilize
you.”—Alex Haley
Hatred
A pastor in Ireland told
this story:
“I
was telling a Protestant group of a boy in our city
Paul McGeown
age two
who
on summer days loved to go with his mother to the park to watch the birds.
‘Birdies! Birdies!’ he would say with glee. On his way to the park one day
the
blast of a terrorist bomb hurled Paul right across the road
inflicting severe
head injuries. For sixteen days
he lay unconscious in the Belfast Children’s
Hospital. A brain surgeon operated
and when Paul regained consciousness
he
could not see. Then a month later
a miracle happened. The nurse was holding
Paul at the window. Suddenly he pointed. ‘Birdies! Birdies!’ Paul could see
again.
“What
was the reaction from the people to whom I was telling this story? Nearly all
felt happiness for the child whose sight had been restored
I’m sure. But one
woman angrily asked
‘But wasn’t he a Roman Catholic?’”
Whoever loves much
does much. ──
Thomas a' Kempis.
Kindness
One of the most difficult
things to give away is kindness
for it is usually returned. ──
Michael P. Green《Illustrations for Biblical Preaching》
Power of Love
He drew a circle that shut me out-
Heretic
rebel
a thing to flout.
But
Love and I had the wit to win:
We
drew a circle that took him in.
── Edwin Markham
Hatred
”Hate at its best will
distort you; at its worst it will destroy you; but it will always immobilize
you.”— Alex Haley
Mature/Immature Love
Infantile love follows the
principle:
“I
love because I am loved.”
Mature
love follows the principle:
“I
am loved because I love.”
Immature
love says:
“I
love you because I need you.”
Mature
love says:
“I
need you because I love you.”
──
Erich Fromm
Love
“It is our care for the helpless
our practice of
lovingkindness
that brands us in the eyes of many of our opponents. ‘Look!’ they
say. ‘How they love one another! Look how they are prepared to
die for one another.’”
–
Tertullian
What is Love?
It’s
silence when your words would hurt.
It’s
patience when your neighbor’s curt.
It’s
deafness when the scandal flows.
It’s
thoughtfulness for another’s woes.
It’s
promptness when stern duty calls.
It’s
courage when misfortune falls.
── Michael P. Green《Illustrations for Biblical
Preaching》
Love
This
was the reaction of the unbelieving Greek writer Lucian (A.D. 120~200) upon
observing the warm fellowship of Christians:
“It is incredible to see the fervor with which the people
of that religion help each other in their wants. They spare nothing. Their
first legislator (Jesus) has put it into their heads that they are brethren. ──
Michael P. Green《Illustrations for Biblical Preaching》
Looking for a gift or just a unique
way to say "I love you?" What do you give when his dresser is full of
cologne and you're both on diets? When she thinks flowers die too soon
and
you've already spent next month's paycheck? Here are 21 great inexpensive ways
to tell the love of your life just how much you care.
1. Make a homemade card with a picture
of the two of you on the cover. Get ideas for a verse by spending a few minutes
browsing through a card shop.
2. Write a poem. It doesn't have to
rhyme.
3. Send a love letter listing the
reasons "Why I love you so much."
4. Pledge your love for a lifetime.
Write it on calligraphy or design it on a desktop computer and print it out on
parchment paper and have it framed.
5. Plan a surprise lunch
complete
with picnic basket
sparkling grape juice and goblets.
6. Bake a giant cookie and write
"I love you" with heart shaped redhots or frosting. (Don't worry
about the calories
it's not for eating!)
7. Make a coupon book and include
coupons for a back rub
a compromise when about to lose an argument
a
listening ear when needed
and doing the dishes when the other cooks.
8. Kidnap the car for a thorough
washing and detailing.
9. Design your personal crest
combining symbols that are meaningful to both of you.
10. Compose a love song.
11. Arrange for someone to sing a
favorite love song to you and your love when you're together.
12. Call a radio station and have them
announce a love message from you and make sure your love is listening at the
right time.
13. Make a big sign such as: "I
Love You
Kristi. Love
Joe" and put it in front of your house or her
apartment complex for the world to see.
14. Buy favorite fruits that aren't in
season
like a basket of strawberries or blueberries.
15. Hide little love notes in the car
a coat pocket
or desk.
16. Place a love message in the
"personal" section of the classified ads in your local paper.
17. Florist flowers aren't the only
way to say "I love you." Pluck a single flower and write a message
about how its beauty reminds you of your love. For greater impact
have it
delivered at work.
18. Prepare a surprise candle light
gourmet low-calorie dinner for two.
19. Write the story of the growth of
your relationship from your perspective
sharing your emotions and your joys.
What a treasure!
20. Make a paperweight from a smooth stone
paint it
and write a special love message on it.
21. Promise to change a habit that
your love has been wanting you to change.
── Family Matters.
The Greek word agape (love) seems to
have been virtually a Christian invention -- a new word for a new thing (apart
from about twenty occurrences in the Greek version of the Old Testament
it is
almost non-existent before the New Testament). Agape draws its meaning directly
from the revelation of God in Christ. It is not a form of natural affection
however
intense
but a supernatural fruit of the Spirit (Gal. 5:22). It is a
matter of will rather than feeling (for Christians must love even those they
dislike -- Matt. 5:44-48). It is the basic element in Christ-likeness.
Read 1 Corinthians 13 and note what
these verses have to say about the primacy (vv. 1-3) and permanence (vv. 8-13)
of love; note too the profile of love (vv. 4-7) which they give.──
James Packer
Your Father Loves You
Harold Shaw Publishers
1986.
What is love?
Asks the child untouched
Whose mother's hand he clutched
His tender heart knows only Trust
Feels only love
knows not of Lust.
What is love?
Asks the blossoming soul
Questioning her life's role
Struggling to separate
Infatuation from love's fate.
What is love?
Asks the youth enlightened
Remembering passion heightened
Wondering if is was an act of Love
Or if not approved by those Above
What is love?
Asks the united one
Whose ring reflects the golden Sun
Hoping it will last forever
That they will always remain Together
What is love?
Asks the furrowed face
Moving at a withering pace
"It has remained all around me.
To its treasure I've not found
The key."
What is love?
I cannot explain
It includes extremes of
Happiness and pain
I will never understand love's
Many hues
Yet I will always know that I
Love you...
Anna Smith - Lind High School
1993.
If a man loves a woman for her beauty
does he love her? No; for the small-pox
which destroys her beauty without
killing her
causes his love to cease. And if any one loves me for my judgment
or my memory
does he really love me? No; for I can lose these qualities
without ceasing to be. ── Pascal.
There is not much difference lexically
between agapaO and phileO. Both involve a voluntary (I've decided to love you)
and involuntary (I can't help but love you) response. One point: there is no
command to love in scripture that ever uses phileO.──
Source Unknown.
In essentials
unity.
In non-essentials
liberty.
In all things
charity.
── Augustine.
What is love?
It is silence--when your words would
hurt.
It is patience--when your neighbor's
curt.
It is deafness--when a scandal flows.
It is thoughtfulness--for other's
woes.
It is promptness--when stern duty
calls.
It is courage--when misfortune falls.
── Source Unknown.
It is natural to love them that love
us
but it is supernatural to love them that hate us.──
Source Unknown.
He prayeth best who loveth best
All things both great and small;
For the dear God who loveth us
He made and loveth all.
── Samuel T. Coleridge.
Love ever gives.
Forgives
outlives
And ever stands
With open hands.
And while it lives
It gives
For this is love's perogative--
To give
and give
and give.
── Oxenham.
On the whole
God's love for us is a
much safer subject to think about than our love for Him. ── C.S.
Lewis.
Love-letter lament:
Dearest Jimmy
No words could ever express the great
unhappiness I've felt since breaking our engagement. Please say you'll take me
back. No one could ever take your place in my heart
so please forgive me. I
love you
I love you
I love you! Yours forever
Marie.
P.S.
And congratulations on willing
the state lottery.
── Source Unknown.
Love at first sight is easy to
understand. It's when two people have been looking at each other for years that
it becomes a miracle.── Sam Levenson
You Don't
Have to Be in Who's Who to Know What's What.
Being in love is a good thing
but it
is not the best thing...Love...is a deep unity maintained by the will and
deliberately strengthened by habits reinforced by the grace which both partners
ask and receive from God...On this love the engine of marriage is run; being in
love was the explosion that started it.── C.S. Lewis.
There is nothing you can to do make
God love you more! There is nothing you can do to make God love you less! His
love is Unconditional
Impartial
Everlasting
Infinite
Perfect!──
Richard C. Halverson.
Many years ago a shabbily dressed boy
trudged several miles through the snowy streets of Chicago
determined to
attend a Bible class that was conducted by D.L. Moody. When he arrived
he was
asked
"Why did you come to a Sunday school so far away? Why didn't you go
to one of the churches near your home?" He answered simply
"Because
you love a fellow over here." ── Source Unknown.
Unconditional love does not equal
uncritical love--Phil 1:9-11 "I love you. Period." Or it could be
extended to say
"I love you in spite of ..." or
"I love you
anyhow..." or "I love you for no good reason." Now how do you
think your ego could handle that? Do you really want to be loved for no good
reason? Isn't that what unconditional love is? More often than not
the
statement
"I love you
" is responded to with the question
"Why?" And when you ask for a "why" are you not asking for
some condition? It sounds like
"Please love me unconditionally
but tell
me why." That's the double bind. ── Dave Grant
Homemade
June 1982 .
Despotism
and attempts at despotism
are a kind of disease of public spirit--they represent
as it were
the
drunkenness of responsibility. It is when men begin to grow desperate in their
love for the people
when they are overwhelmed with the difficulties and
blunders of humanity
that they fall back upon the wild desire to manage
everything themselves. This belief that all would go right if we could only get
the strings into our own hands is a fallacy
almost without exception. But
nobody can say it is not public-spirited. The sin and sorrow of despotism is
not that it does not love men
but that it loves them too much
and trusts them
too little.── G.K. Chesterton.
William Gladstone
in announcing the
death of Princess Alice to the House of Commons
told a touching story. The
little daughter of the Princess was seriously ill with diphtheria. The doctors
told the princess not to kiss her little daughter and endanger her life by
breathing the child's breath. Once when the child was struggling to breathe
the mother
forgetting herself entirely
took the little one into her arms to
keep her from choking to death. Rasping and struggling for her life
the child
said
"Momma
kiss me!" Without thinking of herself the mother
tenderly kissed her daughter. She got diphtheria and some days thereafter she
went to be forever with the Lord. Real love forgets self. Real love knows no
danger. Real love doesn't count the cost. The Bible says
"Many waters
cannot quench love
neither can the floods drown it."
Source Unknown.
LOVE.
“God
is Love” (1.John 4:8
16)
We
have the—
Ⅰ.
God of love (2.Cor.13:11). Source of love.
Ⅱ.
Love of God (Rom.5:5). Love overflowing to us.
Ⅲ.
Love of the Father (1.John 3:1). Manner of His love.
Ⅳ.
Love of Christ (Rom.8:35). Manifestation of His love.
Ⅴ.
Spirit of love (2.Tim.1:7). Power of His love.
Ⅵ.
Comfort of love (Phil.2:1). Consolation of His love.
Ⅶ.
Labour of love (Heb.6:10). His love constraining.
── F.E. Marsh《Five Hundred Bible Readings》
LOVE.
Ⅰ.
Love is the evidence of faith in Christ.
“ We love Him
because He first loved us” (1.John 4:19).
Ⅱ.
Love is the proof of life in Christ. “
We know that we have passed from death unto life
because we love the brethren”
(1. John 3:14).
Ⅲ.
Love is the stamp of genuineness. “
Though I have all faith……and have not charity(love) I am nothing” (1.Cor.13:2).
Ⅳ.
Love is the motive power in service. “
The love of Christ constraineth us” (2.Cor.5:14).
Ⅴ.
Love is careful to obey. “ If ye
love Me
ye will keep My commandments” ( John 14:15
R.V.).
Ⅵ.
Love is the fruit of the Spirit. “
The fruit of the Spirit is love” (Galatians 5:22).
Ⅶ.
Love is the queen of graces. “ Now
abideth faith……greatest of these is charity(1.Cor.13:13).
── F.E. Marsh《Five Hundred Bible Readings》
LOVE.
Love
is a debt we own to all
and a payment ever to be rendered. Love is a duty. The
highest form of duty (Rom.13:8
9
10). He that loves not
believes not; and he
that believes not
loves not.
Ⅰ.
Love is the Divine mark that we are born again (1.John 4:16
17).
Ⅱ.
Love is the unanswerable testimony of allegiance to Christ (John 14:15)。
Ⅲ.
Love is the legible seal that we know the love of God (1.John 4:17).
Ⅳ.
Love is the unmistakable evidence that we are taught of God (1. John 4:9).
Ⅴ.
Love is the beautiful livery of heaven (Col.3:14).
Ⅵ.
Love is the royal badge of discipleship (John 13:35).
Ⅶ.
Love is the plain assurance of having passed from death unto life (1.John
3:14).
── F.E. Marsh《Five Hundred Bible Readings》
LOVE’S CHARACTER.
The
character of His love—
Ⅰ.
Great (Eph.2:4).
Ⅱ.
Inexpressible (John 3:16).
Ⅲ.
Free (Hosea 14:4).
Ⅳ.
Inconceivable (Eph.3:19).
Ⅴ.
Unselfish (1. John 4:10).
Ⅵ.
Unchanging (John 13:1).
Ⅶ.
Inseparable (Rom. 8:35-39).
Ⅷ.
Everlasting (Jer.31:3).
Ⅸ.
Unquenchable (Song of Solomon 8:7).
Ⅹ.
Strong (stronger) as death (Song of Solomon 8:6).
Ⅺ.
Perfect (1. John 4:18).
── F.E. Marsh《Five Hundred Bible Readings》
The Fruit Of The Spirit - Love
INTRODUCTION
1. Having considered the manifold works of the flesh
we now focus our
attention to "the fruit of the Spirit"
2. Have you noticed that the word "fruit" is singular
while "works" is
plural?
a. This suggests that the individual works of the flesh are varied
and not necessarily related
b. But the fruit of the Spirit
though possessing various
characteristics
is in reality ONE
made possible by the
combination of all nine characteristics in these verses
c. A person may be guilty of the works of the flesh when only
committing one of the works
d. But a person cannot be said to be producing the fruit of the
Spirit unless all nine qualities are demonstrated together in his
or her life
1) Similar to the graces as listed in 2 Pe 1:5-8
2) Where the expression "add to your..." implies the graces are
intricately connected to each other and are all necessary to
growing in the knowledge of Jesus Christ
3. So while a person may possess one or more of these graces listed in
Ga 5:22-23
that alone does not constitute the fruit of the Spirit;
one who is led by the Spirit will produce them all!
4. As we begin our examination of the fruit of the Spirit
it is only
natural that the virtue of "love" should head the list...
a. For God is love - 1 Jn 4:8
b. Love is the greatest virtue of all - 1 Co 13:13
[But what is love? What place does it have in the life of the
Christian? How can we best demonstrate our love toward God and man?
These are some of the questions we shall seek to answer in this lesson
as we begin with...]
I. THE DEFINITION OF "LOVE"
A. THE GREEKS HAD FOUR WORDS WHICH WE TRANSLATE "LOVE"...
1. EROS - carnal
sexual love
2. PHILIA - the love of close friendship
3. STORGE - the love of family relationships
4. AGAPE - that love which seeks only the highest good of others
a. It is this love that is Paul mentions in our text
and
defines in 1 Co 13:4-8a
b. Jesus uses the same word in Mt 5:43-48
B. TAKING A CLOSER LOOK AT "AGAPE"...
1. "Agape has to do with the mind: it is not simply an emotion
which rise unbidden in our hearts; it is a principle by which
we deliberately live. Agape has supremely to do with the
will." (Barclay)
2. It is not an uncontrolled reaction of the heart
but a
concentrated exercise of the will
3. It is a caring love one which becomes involved with the need
of others
4. It is does not depend upon the one being loved having to earn
such love
5. It is not an exclusive love...
a. Expressed only to select few
b. But an all-embracing benevolence
shown toward all
C. THE PERFECT ILLUSTRATION OF "AGAPE"...
1. It begins with the God of love - cf. 2 Co 13:11
a. His love is a completely undeserved love - Ro 5:8
b. His love is an inseparable love - Ro 8:35-39
c. Indeed
His love is a great love willing to save sinners!
- Ep 2:4-7
2. It finds its complete fulfillment in Christ
a. God's love reaches its peak in His Son Jesus Christ - cf.
Ro 8:39
b. Jesus has fully demonstrated such love - Jn 15:13
c. Therefore we come to know what love really is when we look
at Jesus Christ - cf. 1 Jn 3:16
II. LOVE IN THE LIFE OF THE CHRISTIAN
A. THE PLACE OF LOVE...
1. It is to be the "atmosphere" in which the Christian walks
- Ep 5:1-2
2. It is to be the "tie that binds" the "garment" the Christian
is to put on - Co 3:12-14
3. It is to be the "universal motive" for all that we do - 1 Co
16:14
4. It is to prevent our Christian liberty from turning into
destructive selfishness - Ga 5:13
5. It is to characterize our preaching and teaching of the truth
- Ep 4:15
B. THE DEMONSTRATION OF LOVE...
1. Demonstrating our love toward God
a. Improper demonstrations:
1) Some think we prove our love by shouting from the roof
top
2) Others
by putting it on a bumper sticker and honking if
they love Jesus
3) And others
think that whatever they do "in the name of
the Lord" will be pleasing to Him
-- Yet consider Jesus' words in Mt 7:21-23
b. Proper demonstration of love toward God:
1) Keeping His commandments - Jn 14:15
21
23-24; 15:10
14
2) Loving our brethren - 1 Jn 4:20-21
-- Do we really love God? What is our attitude toward
keeping His commandments and loving the brethren?
2. Demonstrating our love toward man
a. Showing love toward those who are brethren in Christ
1) Love for one another is fundamental to the doctrine of
Christ - 1 Jn 3:11; Jn 13:34-35
2) We best demonstrate our love toward our brethren by...
a) Helping them when they are in physical need - 1 Jn 3:
16-18
b) Helping them when they are in spiritual need - 1 Pe
4:8; Ja 5:19-20
c) Loving God and keeping His commandments - 1 Jn 5:2
b. Showing love toward those who are not Christians
1) Love for others must go beyond loving those who love us
- cf. Lk 6:27-36
2) We demonstrate that we are truly the children of God
(and led by the Spirit) when out of love we:
a) Do good to them that hate us
b) Bless those that curse us
c) Pray for those that spitefully misuse us
d) Don't resist them when they do evil to us
e) Do unto them as we would have them do unto us
f) Treat them as our Father in heaven treated us!
CONCLUSION
1. It should not surprise us to learn that one who produces the fruit
of the Spirit demonstrates the virtue of love in his or her life
a. The Father demonstrated love in offering His Son as a sacrifice
for sin
b. The Son personified love in the way He lived and died for us
c. The Spirit of God revealed what love is through the Word
-- Shall not the one born of God and walking by the Spirit manifest
love in both his attitude and actions?
2. Even if we already excel in the matter of love...
a. There is always room for growth - cf. 1 Th 4:9-10
b. There is always the need for prayers such as this one:
"And may the Lord make you increase and abound in love to one
another and to all just as we do to you" (1 Th 3:12)
We have spoken of God's wonderful love for us; have you yet responded
to that love? - cf. Ro 2:4-5
--《Executable
Outlines》